People can be so quick to judge each other's relationships. I'm not saying that I haven't been guilty of this in the past, but ever since I started talking to Handsome, my perspective has changed a little.
Like I've mentioned a million times, Handsome and I began talking online. After communicating over the phone for a few months, we knew we had something special before we even hung out in person. Once we finally got to be together, I knew he was it for me. Yeah, we'd been talking for only a few months, and yes we only got to hang out a few times over the course of one month, but I knew. He was the first man that I'd ever had feelings that strong for. I thought I knew what love was before I met him, but he made me realize that what I felt before wasn't even close to the real thing. Of course I shared this with my friends- who doesn't love to talk about their current love interest? But they didn't necessarily understand. They didn't understand how I could already (possibly) love him after only being with him a few times. They thought I was jumping in too quickly. Maybe I was, but I just knew. I couldn't tell them enough. I know that he's special. I know that he's not going to hurt me. I know that we can make it as a couple even though were across the world from each other.
Of course, my friends thought they knew better than I did. They still didn't believe that what I felt was real. They couldn't believe that I could fall for someone so fast. They judged my relationship. It hurt me. I felt like I couldn't talk about it with them. I felt secure in my relationship- shouldn't that be enough for them? I understand they were concerned, and they didn't want me to get hurt. But not having that support from your friends, or even having "support," but knowing that their judging you, is hard. Especially when they're your only support system. I didn't have Handsome there. I was away from the man I loved, and I needed that support from my friends. But I didn't ask for it because I didn't want to be judged.
When I was going to spend the summer with Handsome in Germany, people still doubted us. I was beyond excited to go spend two months with the man I loved in an amazing place I'd always dreamed of going. But everyone told me to "be careful" because we'd never spent that much time together before. They told me to "be ready in case things don't work out." They asked me what I would do if I wanted to come home early, if I was sure I was ready to spend that much time with him. When I was so exited to go to Europe and be with the man I fell in love with, all they could focus on was the negative. I just wanted them to be happy for me, but it seemed like they couldn't. It was almost like we had to "prove ourselves." We had to prove that what we felt was real by spending that time together and making it through. Which we did.
It's been over a year now, and I can happily say that I don't feel my friends judge my relationship anymore. At least not in the same ways. They know that Handsome is special and that what we have is real. Sure, sometimes they make fun of me because we're "cheesy," but that's okay. I love doing the overly romantic cheesy things. We argue over who loves each other more, we call each other just to say "I love you," we talk about the big things in our future like they're happening now. My friends might make judge me for it, but it's what keeps our relationship special. We never stop the little things. I never stop gushing over how perfect he is. He never stops telling me how beautiful I am. We don't take each other for granted.
They can judge me, but I know that I'll never judge someone else's relationship again. I used to think a girl was crazy if she got back with a guy that cheated on her. I used to think that the dynamic between certain people's relationship was "weird," and I used to be the one to judge people. I think we all do at some point. But I've learned that every relationship is different. If the girl that got cheated on trusts him, really trusts him, then who am I to think otherwise? If a couple's dynamic isn't "normal," who am I to say that they're not going to last?
I'm glad that the way Handsome and I "met" wasn't typical. The path that our relationship has taken has been far from normal. Others may not understand it, but it has made our relationship so strong. I no longer care what other's think. If they want to judge us, let them. I'm happy, he's happy, and that's all that matters to me.