3.13.2014

what makes my relationship work

Whenever I post about relationships around here, I really try to emphasize the fact that all relationships are different. I mentioned in this post that I've learned not to compare my relationship to others, and I believe it honestly makes a huge difference in your happiness. Every couple has their own dynamic, their own traditions, their own style of showing affection. I don't think that there is a "right" way and "wrong" way to do most things in a relationship. Sure, cheating is clearly wrong, and showing someone you care about them surely is the right thing to do, but there really isn't a set way to do things regarding most aspects of a relationship. I get quite a few emails asking for relationship "advice" and asking what makes our relationship work, so I thought I would just share a little more about the dynamics of my relationship. Its probably nothing you haven't heard, but yolo.
We're the kind of couple that shares everything. We talk about our feelings. We talk about poop. We literally can talk about anything and everything. We talk pretty much all day long, and we keep each other updated on what were doing, who were with, and all of that jazz. Not in a controlling way by any means though, were just always texting and talking about what we're doing and stuff. I think that this really helps with our trust. I never have to worry about where he's at or what he's doing. If one of us is going somewhere where we won't be able to talk for a while, we tell each other. Its nice knowing that no matter what he's doing, he's thinking about me.

We're the kind of couple that does all of the cheesy crap. We "argue" over who loves the other more, we send long texts before bed about how much we love each other, we send each other care packages, we talk about how amazing our future together is going to be, we talk about what we're going to name our kids. That might make some of you want to throw up, and I don't blame you, but it works for us. We're not together right now, so thinking about the future when we are together brings us happiness. All of the cheesy texts and things we do help us remind each other how much we care, since we can't do that in person every day.


We're the kind of couple that enjoys doing nothing. When we're together, we have fun being at home. We can lay around all day watching movies and doing nothing, and it can still be the best day ever. We go walk around places, go out to eat, see movies, and all of that fun stuff too, but we're perfectly content just enjoying each other's company. It's so nice to have someone you can relax with and that you can have fun doing boring things with, you know? We can have fun cleaning or grocery shopping or doing laundry!

We're the kind of couple that makes fun of each other. He has a HUGE forehead, and I love making fun of him for it. He teases me right back! He's my best friend. We can be silly and pick on each other and goof around, and I love that.  I'm not a very serious person, and neither is he, but we can also be serious when we need to be.

We support each other, put each other's wants and needs before our own, we communicate and trust each other, and we have fun together. We love each other wholeheartedly and we never let each other forget it. We just get each other. I know that I'm so lucky that I have such an amazing man in my life, but its not all luck. We work together to make our relationship what it is. I'm not saying that all relationships should be like ours, but what we have works for us. Really the only advice I have on the matter is to find whatever works for you as a couple. There is no secret formula to a successful relationship. If you're happiest when you're out doing things, then go out! If you're happy at home, spend your nights together with some Netflix. If you love the hopeless romantic cheesy shit, stay home, make a romantic candlelit meal ,and slow dance in the kitchen!

What makes your relationship work?
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9 comments:

  1. this is precious! so nice to see a genuinely healthy and happy relationship.

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  2. I adore you two. I say that not in a creepy was but in a real way, You two make a long distance relationship look like a walk in the park. For My Guy and I, we've been through some ups and downs (currently in the down stage) but reading about your relationship gives me faith. While I know that all relationships are not the same, I still love reading about your true real love story.

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  3. no fun in a relationship if you cant make fun of each other :P

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  4. You guys are so freaking adorable!

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  5. You guys are literally the cutest couple ever! So happy for you!

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  6. You guys are so cute! Love this post!

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  7. Love this! You guy sound like complete opposites from Sam and I, but this post was still a good reminder of how happy my relationship makes me and how I shouldn't compare it to anyone else's, because they're all special an different! We were on the same page today, too. Your post could be a response to mine! Haha.

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  8. This basically describes the relationship between me and my boyfriend!

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  9. Aww you guys are so cute!! And you sound a lot like my husband and I. He drives me nuts!! But I love him more than anything else in this entire world and he will always know that.

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