Brownie points if you know what song the title of this post comes from!
Thank you everyone for linking up yesterday! If you haven't yet, there's still time! :)
Yesterday's link up was all about being thankful. It got me thinking about how thankful I am for Handsome and for the relationship we have. We're best friends, and its really so easy for us. It's perfect, and I think everyone deserves a love like that. He's soooo good to me and I really don't thank him enough.
I never understood people that claim a relationship takes a lot of hard work.
I mean, lets face it- if you are having problems in your relationship from the start, isn't that like some sort of sign? If he or she treats you poorly in the beginning, is that really going to change? I know that no relationship is sunshine and rainbows all the time, obviously, but I don't think that it should be something that is a constant struggle either. There's a difference between arguing or disagreeing every once and a while and being unhappy on an almost daily basis. When you're dating someone, specifically in college or especially high school, there should not be that much drama. I just cannot comprehend why a person would stay in a relationship that causes them greif on the daily. You should be with someone that makes you smile- makes your heart smile- every single day.
I see posts on Facebook and tweets all the time from people in relationships saying things like "I'm fighting so hard for this relationship and you're doing nothing. I'm so done." or whatever. Then the next day the same person posts "He's my everything, I love him so much." PS those were actual posts that I saw yesterday and today. First of all, its Facebook, no one needs your relationship drama. But really it just amazes me how many people flutter back and forth almost daily between being "done" and being "so in love." Is a relationship like that really worth it? Do these girls really plan on spending forever like that?
Now, of course, this is easier said than done. I was in a relationship in high school that was really rough. I was constantly sad and always jealous. So why did I stay with him for over three years?! Who knows. I learned a lot from that relationship though.
My relationship with Dj has really taught me a lot, too. I've realized that there's no better feeling than being in love with your best friend. Love should be easy and fun almost all of the time. I've learned that I deserve to be happy. Everyone deserves to be happy in love. Everyone deserves to find that someone that makes love effortless.
Making a relationship fun and easy really shouldn't be that hard, right? I believe that with good communication, trust, and being best friends is all it really takes. If you really love someone, you're willing to put their needs before your own. You're willing to go out of your way to do anything and everything for that person. I really think that it is that simple. Selfishness almost always leads to the demise of a relationship. But if you listen, respect, and appreciate your loved one, it wont be that difficult.
It just makes me sad to see people stuck in relationships where they're unhappy and trying to change the other person, yet it probably isn't going to get any better.
On a happier note, I get to see Handsome in 40 days! I'm getting my winter clothes ready...its going to be freezing but I'm seriously so excited. I'm trying to focus on getting to Thanksgiving because once that's over its only a couple weeks until we're back together! This will be our first Christmas and New Years that we actually get to spend together (he was in Germany last year) and that makes me so happy! I'm getting us matching PJs and Santa hats to wear on Christmas sooooo that's good.
PS here's what we'd look like if our faces were switched.