11.05.2013

love don't have to be a bunch of drama

Brownie points if you know what song the title of this post comes from!
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Thank you everyone for linking up yesterday! If you haven't yet, there's still time! :)
Yesterday's link up was all about being thankful. It got me thinking about how thankful I am for Handsome and for the relationship we have. We're best friends, and its really so easy for us. It's perfect, and I think everyone deserves a love like that. He's soooo good to me and I really don't thank him enough.

I never understood people that claim a relationship takes a lot of hard work. 

 I mean, lets face it- if you are having problems in your relationship from the start, isn't that like some sort of sign? If he or she treats you poorly in the beginning, is that really going to change? I know that no relationship is sunshine and rainbows all the time, obviously, but I don't think that it should be something that is a constant struggle either. There's a difference between arguing or disagreeing every once and a while and being unhappy on an almost daily basis. When you're dating someone, specifically in college or especially high school, there should not be that much drama. I just cannot comprehend why a person would stay in a relationship that causes them greif on the daily. You should be with someone that makes you smile- makes your heart smile- every single day.

I see posts on Facebook and tweets all the time from people in relationships saying things like "I'm fighting so hard for this relationship and you're doing nothing. I'm so done." or whatever. Then the next day the same person posts "He's my everything, I love him so much." PS those were actual posts that I saw yesterday and today. First of all, its Facebook, no one needs your relationship drama. But really it just amazes me how many people flutter back and forth almost daily between being "done" and being "so in love." Is a relationship like that really worth it? Do these girls really plan on spending forever like that? 

Now, of course, this is easier said than done. I was in a relationship in high school that was really rough. I was constantly sad and always jealous. So why did I stay with him for over three years?! Who knows. I learned a lot from that relationship though.

My relationship with Dj has really taught me a lot, too. I've realized that there's no better feeling than being in love with your best friend. Love should be easy and fun almost all of the time. I've learned that I deserve to be happy. Everyone deserves to be happy in love. Everyone deserves to find that someone that makes love effortless.

Making a relationship fun and easy really shouldn't be that hard, right? I believe that with good communication, trust, and being best friends is all it really takes. If you really love someone, you're willing to put their needs before your own. You're willing to go out of your way to do anything and everything for that person. I really think that it is that simple. Selfishness almost always leads to the demise of a relationship. But if you listen, respect, and appreciate your loved one, it wont be that difficult. 

It just makes me sad to see people stuck in relationships where they're unhappy and trying to change the other person, yet it probably isn't going to get any better.

*end rant*

On a happier note, I get to see Handsome in 40 days! I'm getting my winter clothes ready...its going to be freezing but I'm seriously so excited. I'm trying to focus on getting to Thanksgiving because once that's over its only a couple weeks until we're back together! This will be our first Christmas and New Years that we actually get to spend together (he was in Germany last year) and that makes me so happy! I'm getting us matching PJs and Santa hats to wear on Christmas sooooo that's good.

PS here's what we'd look like if our faces were switched.



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13 comments:

  1. LOVE Easton Corbin and that song :)

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  2. 1. That song has been my obsession lately! Love Easton Corbin!

    2. I agree, relationships take work in the sense that you can't just give up because you're having an argument or disagree on something, but it shouldn't be a constant battle over everything. Particularly your values. If you're in such different places, it just wasn't meant to be.

    And 3. I constantly see posts like that on facebook and wonder 1. why people post things like that in the first place and 2. why you're with someone if they're constantly making you feel so low that you feel the need to seek attention from facebook. My fiance and I had a fight the other day over something completely stupid {I might have been PMSing..} but I didn't go on facebook and put him on blast and then talk about how much I love him the next day. I don't even want our rare little dramas, why would other people?!

    Jamie @
    The Growing Up Diaries

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  3. I literally giggled at the back and forth some relationships endure. I have been in the miserable OMG why am I still with this idiot relationship. But my relationship right now? It's the best, Anthony is my best friend, hands down. We've had our ups and downs but there isn't a day that I am not smiling because I have him in my life. ♥
    I love this post! I hate when people post drama for all the world to see.

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  4. I'm so happy you get to see him soon!!!!! I am totally surprising my husband with matching jammies this year, but thus far I haven't been able to find any I'm really luck. Any suggestions of places to look??

    I wrote a post similar to yours a while back so I obviously agree with it 100%. I have always refused to settle, and that's just what those relationships are. Are Nick and I perfect? Hell no! But we don't fight. We definitely argue, but without heated voices, name calling, walking away, etc. We respect each other, talk it out, and never go to bed angry. We are a team and our passionate loves radiates from us. I can tell that's what you and DJ have. And that's what everyone should have!!!
    (not to mention, airing your dirty relationship laundry online just screams immature!)

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  5. YES! Whenever I see posts like the kind you mentioned on Facebook I roll my eyes so hard I see the back of my head. No relationship is perfect but come ON! I'm glad you guys get to spend holidays together this year!!!! P.S. You're beautiful and he's handsome but I'm crossing my fingers that your children don't come out looking like those photos! haha

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  6. "Lovin' You is Fun!" :) Love that song!

    And oh my goodness my husband and I were just talking about this like an hour ago-- Why do people say that love is hard? Relationships are hard? Because it is entirely possible to have a joy-filled, drama-free relationship. That doesn't mean you'll never have tough times in life, but the one you're with shouldn't be the one causing all the problems in your life, or else something isn't right.

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  7. I know what you mean! A friend of my husband's was in what I saw as a toxic relationship for years - one day they're fighting and calling each other truly awful words, and the next they're professing how deeply in love they are and how everything is perfect. Umm ... no. While it was hard to watch, at least it made me appreciate my own relationship more! I try to not judge others', but it sure seemed like they had some relationships basics totally missing - trust, support, etc.

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  8. Oh my those pictures made me laugh out loud!

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  9. this post! so good.

    I see post like that on fb all the time and just gag! Why? Why do people feel it necessary to put such things on fb...everyone relationship will experience bumps but I don't understand how people handle the constant instability and back and forth! It makes my heart sad for them to not know what REAL love feels like and the security that comes with it.

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  10. I agree to some extent... all of the back and forth ESPECIALLY on public forums is INSANE. Those people need to walk away from each other. If you're ok humiliating yourself and your "loved ones" or being humiliated by them, all signs point to NO!
    However speaking from experience, relationships can get hard and require work sometimes. My husband and I have been together almost 11 years and lemme tell ya, not everyday is sunshine and roses. I don't think it's realistic to expect a consistently easy road and smooth ride. Think about it, do you have the best relationship with yourself every day? Do you always look in the mirror and think "Wow, I'm GREAT!" probably not. I annoy myself sometimes, I say and do somethings I kick myself for later. I make mistakes and get angry at myself. My best friend annoys me sometimes. I'm sure the feeling is mutual (or not haha) and as much as I adore him, my husband can drive me bat sh*t crazy sometimes!
    Know what I mean?
    But of course there's a difference between respectful bickering and an all out war/pity fest in the public eye.

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  11. I really hate it when people share their relationship drama on Facebook. Especially if I'm FB friends with both people. It just gets so ugly. I've actually removed people from my newsfeed because of it.

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