I believe that trust is the most important aspect of a relationship. When you lack trust, everything they do seems suspicious. You constantly worry about where they are and who they're with. That can't be healthy, right?
I've been in a relationship in the past where I literally had zero trust for the guy. Looking back, I was so naive and such an idiot. About four months into our relationship, we started having problems with another girl. [This was a high school relationship, and it was very immature.] Anyway, he lied to me multiple times about talking to her and seeing her. It hurt me so bad. I was always worrying about it, and every time he lied to me I found out. That's when I should've ended things. But I thought I loved him and so I stayed with him. For three and a half years. Three and a half years full of distrust and unhappiness. When I think about it I wonder how I dealt with it for so long. For three years I didn't trust the guy I was in a relationship with. My friends all tried to tell me but I didn't listen. I was dumb. Honestly, I didn't think I would be able to trust another guy, at least not for a while.
Fast forward to now. I have the most amazing man in my life. From the beginning, I realized that it would be something special. I had feelings for him in the first few weeks that were stronger than my feelings for my ex had ever been. It blew my mind. We had only been talking for like a month and a half when New Years rolled around. He was in Amsterdam (lucky) and I was in Phoenix. If it had been my ex, I would've been freaking out all night. I would've been wondering where he is, what he's doing. Is he with another girl? But with Dj, I never had a single thought like that. I knew he was thinking about me. Even though we couldn't talk (his phone wouldn't work since he's in another country), I never doubted that I was on his mind. It's such an amazing feeling to be able to trust someone so much. Now it's been almost a year, and I have never once not trusted him. It makes me love him that much more.
I think that there are so many important factors in a relationship. Communication and respect are essential, and I also think that being each other's best friend makes a huge difference. But if you don't have a foundation of trust, none of that other stuff matters.
Annddddd what would a good post be without a picture of me and my handsome man?! :)
Krispy Kreme anyone?! :) This was his first trip home. I totally ate more donuts than him.